Too Much of a Good Thing: Five of My Biggest Mistakes

Too much of a good thingSupposedly you can never be too rich or too thin. We all know that’s a lie.

But do you think it’s possible to be too kind? Or too generous? Too compassionate? Too hard working? Or too intelligent?

Unfortunately, there have been times in my life when I’ve realized this is most definitely possible. Let’s take a look at some of my lovely mistakes and find out if you have also experienced too much of a good thing in your life.

Too Much Service? Raise your hand if you’ve ever agreed to volunteer for something when you didn’t have the time for it. (Seriously, nobody’s looking – raise your hand if you want!) I’ve never met a mom who hasn’t made this mistake. It’s part of our natural tendency to serve. We agree to take on way more than we can handle.

Like the time I offered to help start a middle school youth group at church. Every Sunday afternoon I found myself holed up in the office planning the activities instead of spending time with my family. And on Tuesday evenings I had to hire a babysitter to drive my kids to sports practices that conflicted with the youth group meeting. The ironic thing was that my son, who was in middle school, could not even attend the meetings. I should have seen it but I was blind to the fact that my desire to SERVE others resulted in a willful neglect of my own family.

Do you have too much SERVICE in your life?

Too Much Philanthropy? My sister and I were just talking about this one – we pretty much buy whatever the kids in the neighborhood are selling. And we support charities whenever we are asked by our friends. Plus, we have our own charitable causes we choose to support as well as the church. So what’s the problem with being generous? It’s a problem when you are not a good steward of your finances.

Take for example the several years when I was making monthly contributions to three different charities on my credit card. I was spending $250 a month being philanthropic – yet I was carrying a balance on my credit card. I was paying interest on my charitable donations. I know. That’s completely irresponsible and ridiculous. But I did it. I did it for a few years before I woke up and made a change.

What about you? Are you being a good steward of your finances or do you have too much PHILANTHROPY in your life? [Read more…]

An Invitation to Thrive

THRIVE Oct 2015Is it time for you to THRIVE in your business, blog or ministry? Sometimes we get this feeling like we’re on the verge of something amazing – like we are finally ready to make a change…an impact…a difference. When we get that feeling, we know it’s time to THRIVE (even if we’re scared)!

Fortunately, we don’t have to do it alone. There is a small group of Christian mompreneurs who are eager to meet you and work with you as we each embrace the joys and challenges that come with growth. We’re meeting – live and in person – October 26-28, 2015 in Virginia Beach, VA. And we would love for you to join us – but only if you are committed to connecting and thriving!

Imagine what it would be like to:

  • Have a sounding board of trusted professional Christian women who understand your goals and are committed to helping you succeed?
  • Work closely with a professional writer, coach and marketing consultant who can help you map out your strategy and execute your plan to grow your business or ministry?
  • Share your successes and challenges with someone who truly supports you and is willing to walk beside you on this journey?
  • Have the resources you need to make decisions quickly and move forward with confidence and clarity?
  • Actually accomplish the goals you set for yourself and your business this year?

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Make Your Bed (And Other Productivity Tips from Mom)

A young woman making the bed and organizing the roomMoms love to make rules. We love to spout advice and impart little words of wisdom on our precious ones. But is anyone even listening? I know I didn’t feel like listening when I was a child. All of my mom’s rules and advice seemed so restrictive and controlling. But now…now that I’m a mom and can see how foolish I was…I know that mom’s advice was spot-on. Even if she didn’t realize it at the time, my mom’s rules helped me develop a good work ethic and create a lifetime of productive habits.

Five Habits Your Mother Was Right About:

Make Your Bed. I used to think making my bed was a waste of time. I figured I would mess it up again each night, and nobody would even see it during the day to know if it was made or not. But I discovered that the act of making the bed actually helps me set the tone for the rest of my day. If I wake up and make my bed then I’ve already accomplished something before the day has even started. I know it sounds strange but when I get dressed and leave my bedroom for the day, a tidy bed translates into an organized state of mind. So now matter how chaotic the day becomes, at least I’ve started with some semblance of order. And – here’s the bonus – when I collapse into bed at night, I’m not reminded of the messy pieces of my life.

Go Outside and Play. If you grew up the same way I did, you spent most of your weekends and summers outdoors. As soon as my chores were finished I left the house to ride bikes, play with friends or explore the woods behind my house. The exercise, fresh air and nature discoveries were abundant. I think that’s a huge part of what made me happy, healthy and creative. It’s not as easy now as it used to be, but I start most of my days outdoors – running or riding a bike. And I try to get outside every evening, even if it’s just to eat dinner on the back porch. Nature has a way of recharging me and giving me a fresh perspective to tackle whatever task I have at hand. [Read more…]