I was at a school conference last week and my son was impressing the teachers with his color-coded, neatly organized binder. (Let me preface by saying the words “neatly organized” are not often used when describing anything related to my wonderful son!) We congratulated him on taking the initiative and responsibility to get off to a great start to the school year. Then one of the teachers said, “So this is only the third day of school. What are you going to do when the binder starts to get messy in a few weeks? What’s your plan then?”
Now…I could have been upset by that question. They were predicting his failure! And my son could have felt deflated. After all, don’t they have faith that he can keep it organized all year long? But that’s not what was going on. This teacher was not trying to discourage him, she was trying to get him to think about his Failure Plan.
Lots of people don’t like the word “failure.” They avoid saying it and pretend it doesn’t exist. Like if you whisper the word “cancer” it somehow makes it less horrible. But failure is a reality. And you can’t avoid it. The best thing you can do is to learn how to react when it comes your way.
That’s why it’s so important to consider the possibility of failure and map out a plan for that scenario. When we create a Failure Plan, we give ourselves a security blanket. We recognize that failure is a possibility but we have the power to turn it around.
I think lack of a Failure Plan is the reason so many people give up on diets and exercise programs. They don’t know what to do when they fall off the wagon. They don’t know how to course correct. Because nobody ever talks about it. Nobody wants to admit that it’s possible you might eat a bag or Doritos and a sleeve of Oreos one night and feel so horrible about yourself that you can’t walk into the gym for a month. But if you have a plan…if you know what you will do…it’s easier to get back on track quickly. [Read more...]