Five Things You Can Stop Feeling Guilty About

 

 

Moms know guilt. We wear it like a tattered old sweater we refuse to part with. We carry it with us like a dark cloud that threatens our happiness. And we reluctantly but faithfully accept it from strangers, causing us second-guess our every move.

Guilt can be helpful if it causes you to be a better person. But, if you’re like me, you take on a lot of guilt that doesn’t do anything but create stress and anxiety. That’s because we feel guilty about things that don’t deserve our attention. Here are five things I’ve decided I no longer need to feel guilty about – and I’m hoping you will join me!

Five Things You Can Stop Feeling Guilty About

1. Your parenting style. Being a mom is a journey comprised of a million decisions. Breastfeed or bottle feed? Vaccinations or not? Homeschool or public school? It seems no matter what you choose, you attract critics and haters. Family, friends and total strangers weigh in on your abilities as a parent. Even your children evaluate your skills and tell you what you’re doing wrong (maybe that’s just my children!). But guess what? It’s your job to make those decisions and you’re not getting fired any time soon. God gave your children to you for a reason – and he will equip you to be the best mom you can be to them. So make your choices based on what you feel is best at the moment and don’t look back.

2. Your work choices. Are you a member of Team LeanIn or Team StayAtHomeMom? A lot of moms feel like they need to take sides. I happen to fall somewhere in the middle, which makes it difficult to have allegiance to either team. But there are some maniacal fans on both sides and they can make you question your choices. One minute you feel guilty for not being home with your children and the next minute you feel guilty for “wasting” your master’s degree. Remember, God created YOU to be unique. He has very specific plans for you – and they don’t involve following the crowd. So, take heart and know that if your choices are in alignment with God’s plan there’s no reason to feel guilty. [Read more…]

Why We Thrive Together

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Six busy moms took time from their schedules last week to gather in Virginia Beach, Va for a day of strategy and support. They traveled from near (Richmond) and far (Minnesota) for the sole purpose of connecting with one another and helping each other grow in business.

We brainstormed, laughed, cried, prayed, strategized and soaked up the sun. We got clarity. We made decisions. We set goals. But mostly, we enjoyed the fellowship that comes from spending time with a small group of like-minded women. THIS is exactly why I created the International Christian Mompreneur Network five years ago! THIS is what I was missing. THIS is what I was craving. And I know it’s something many of us need.

So I just want to say thanks to the moms who participated in the mastermind session: Stephanie Danner, Kelly Garrett, Betsy Lavin, Maggie Kerrigan and Susie Fife. And I want to encourage the many mom business owners and ministry leaders who take the time to make these connections in their own little circles. I know you’re busy – we’re all ridiculously over scheduled. But as we learned in our day of masterminding, the experience of getting together IN REAL LIFE is invaluable!
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3 Reasons to Join me at Platform University

Platform Conference with Michael HyattWhen I started a freelance writing business more than 20 years ago, the goal was to be independent. I didn’t want a boss. I wanted to do it all myself. On my time. On my terms. It was a challenge as a young wife in a new city, with no friends or family or professional contacts. But I eventually grew my “business” into a 60-hour workweek, writing and editing for local businesses from my apartment. I was so proud of myself for “succeeding” — and so grateful for the flexibility and financial freedom that accompanied my success.

What I didn’t see right away – and I can be a little slow sometimes – is that this success was leading me along a path to nowhere. A path to longer hours and larger paychecks, but less time for my family and for myself. A path to busy-ville. And a path to loneliness.

I think that happens to a lot of entrepreneurs and small business owners. They work so hard to build something, only to discover that they are creating an overwhelmed life of isolation.

After I had three babies in five years, I came to the conclusion that this kind of business no longer served me. I craved balance – between work and family. I longed for boundaries – between business and personal time. And I desperately sought mentors to build me up – and teach me what I needed to know in order to create a better business and life. [Read more…]